![]() ![]() When it’s not, it can be excruciating, perhaps bland, maybe lonely. When this is handled with love and respect, the relationship will be tight, strong and safe. This is intimacy – honest, generous, open, vulnerable, sometimes messy and when it’s at its best, phenomenal. Part of being intimate with another person involves dropping the walls, clearing the way for them to be closer to you than you would allow anyone else. However in terms of intimate relationships, it’s something that has always sat uneasy with me. There’s a lot said around the idea that nobody can ‘make you sad/angry/ashamed …’, and for the most part, this is true. This finding gives fuel to the importance of being emotionally responsible with those we love (not to be confused with being emotionally responsible for them). When something starts clanging around the inside of your skull, remind yourself that you’ve made time later to deal with whatever it it. Then, at the end of your scheduled break – stop. Worry about everything that’s been hassling you for attention. Set aside a period of time each day, say 20 minutes, where you can go hard with your worrying. Kinda like a date, but nowhere near the fun. Humans are resilient creatures and it’s likely that although the worst case scenario won’t have you pulling your ‘bring it on then,’ face, whatever it is you’ll be able to handle it. This takes the steam out of the original thought that’s made itself at home in your head. This may sound counter-intuitive but stay with me … Think about the worst case scenario and ask yourself if you can handle it. It’s important because it’s the only place we have any power. This has been proven over and over and then a bit more.īring yourself back to the moment (as opposed to thinking about the past or the future) by paying attention to what you hear, feel, smell, see and taste. Physical activity interrupts negative thinking and reframes the way you look at things. Rumination is a proven risk factor for depression so seriously … ya’ gotta stop it. It’s not easy – I know – but here are four proven ways to stop rumination running away with your head. The study, published in the journal Motivation and Emotion, found the reason some emotions stay around for longer than others is because of rumination – the tendency to replay or think about negative things over and over.Īs explained by researcher Saskia Lavrijsen, ‘Rumination is the central determinant of why some emotions last longer than others.’ How to stop thinking the same thoughts over and over and… The stay-around power of sadness is likely due to its tendency to be associated with events that have a major long-term impact on people’s lives, such as bereavement. Guilt lingers longer than the hot burn of shame and fear tends to pass fairly quickly compared to anxiety which generally lasts much longer. Hatred is the second most enduring emotion followed by joy which lasts an average of 35 hours. Sadness is the longest lasting of all emotions taking on average 120 hours to pass. In a recent study, researchers looked at 27 different emotions and gained fascinating insight into the average amount of time each emotion tends to stay. Others stay for longer, as though there’s no place else for them to be. Some emotions burst onto the scene and disappear just as quickly. ![]()
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